Dianne, good for you, you were able to stick it out and have won what you always deserved, the respect and love of your husband. I do believe your filing for divorce make him realize you were not going to take it anymore...A person, especially a woman needs to set bounderies of what she'll take and what she won't take.

Claire, in reading this I realized that you have no children as yet. Something I posted in another area about having to be a mother to understand would seem nasty if I knew then what I know now. I DIDN'T KNOW and hope I didn't hurt your feeling in the other post about protecting ones children from harm....I may be argumentative at times but would NEVER intentionally hurt or try to hurt anyones feelings.....