My husband and I each make equal amounts of not much money, so neither of us really qualifies as a paycheck for the other. If we split, we'd each have to pay for housing which is EXPENSIVE in SoCali. Cooking and cleaning are done together or they're not done at all, so no one here is getting maid service either.

Chatty, you have the divorce papers and I don't, but other than that I'm not sure our situations are that dissimilar. I've always believed in substance over nomenclature, so I'm probably as divorced as you are in the non-legal everyday sense.