Stop me if you heard this before..."THEY ARE SELFISH" period. The world revolves around them. All men are not like this and forgive me for sounding like a MBasher. I'm not. And I am not a bitter divorcee either. If my X's and my next door neighbor he married swimming pool sudden [Eek!] ly gets a leak and caves in...hey, things happen...LOL! Just joshing.

You hit the nail on the head Dotsie with your post title. Having their cake and eating it too. No man OR woman wants to be replaced. It doesn't matter that he/she asked for the Divorce, they still want to be #1. Human nature...well at least it is human nature of selish people who live for ME...ME...Me...