thanks Chatty,
It was a mixed blessing , because i wanted out , but didnt know how to get out. And the police were called thats the only way i was able to get my things out. Nothing was in my name but the bank bill that i didnt contribute to SCREWING UP. I've had a restraining order temporary. As for kids , they are with him and prob hate me , the last time I spoke to my daughter she hung up on me. I will look at the site . AS for a horrable divorce , it will be t hat , because he will bring in the other times i left , and always coming back . This is actually i had the strength to stay gone this long and work on starting my life over safe and happy , I have a safe home , a writing career in the works , my application on monster and ssi on appeal. My story is in the first draft of a novel called a soul exposed waiting to edit and see what the crit group thinks , at some point.

Debi