I divorced when my son was very small and remarried when he was 3. I am so blessed that my husband loved my son, I think, before he loved me and when we married we were a family. The "donor" as I call the biological father has never chosen to be a part of this phenomenal child's life. Fortunately, my son had an amazing grandfather and a wonderful father by marriage. But every now and then he wonders why his "father ditched" him (his words). All the explanations in the world can't really explain that. He knows he is loved and cherished by his family, but he always wonders. You are so right, Dots, divorce just goes on and on.