My parents had never been separated, but I was for about a year. It is REALLY difficult to remain neutral when family or close friends are involved.

However, I appreciated the calls and the contacts to both of us. I had lost the person that I was closest to in my life, and I was hurting really badly. I had also lost my best friend....and had , I thought, nobody to turn to. A few friends and family stayed in touch with both if us, for which I am forever grateful. It all worked out in the end, but I was so miserable for a few months.

Are your parents both living alone? Can you see them both at least once a week for dinner or a movie or a walk, or whatever??

Stay in touch, be there for both, and don't talk to one about the other. And don't try to be a mediator.....things will be what they end up being in the end no matter what you do. I know it is hard, but remember that they didn't get to this point overnight and they won't get it resolved overnight either, no matter which way they end up.

Stay strong......