It is always hard to say 'no' to a child. My younger son got into some trouble and 'disappeared' for about 6 months. Nobody heard from him during that time, and that was really worrisome. Although he was an adult at the time, it doesn't make it any easier. He straightened out his life and is now a happily married man with kids of his own. I know it's hard for you, but you have to take care of yourself and your other kids. Going to Naranon sounds like a good thing for you. Being with others who are going through the same things really helps. I am keeping you and your family in my prayers.
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