I agree with you chatty that doesn't matter. Wedding is ..not a reflection how the marriage will succeed while the couple is alive.

It must be hard to worry about how your daughter will adjust with her MIL. HOpefully it will not affect her relationship with her hubby.

As for the custom about the pegnoir set giving etc. , I'm genuinely puzzled. I am completely unfamiliar with this custom. It sounds cultural...

EVery generation needs the freedom without parents to create/transform existing positive rituals for weddings, marriage. Has it occurred to anyone here, why young couples immigrated to North America....they can escape stifling "traditions", in-laws.. there is of course, a downside, for loving, flexible in-law parents, they can be of immense friendly support in person.