Gosh, thanks for all the info Pam. I am thinking I should just bite the bullet and give in to having the shower in a hall and forget it. My hubby does not agree. He thinks I am giving in. Yes, I am giving in, but I don't want to fight about it, I just want it done and over with. Terrible to say, I know this should be a happy and fun time. But when the groom to be treats you with such disrespect, you just don't want to do anything for him. I will do it for my dtr. She says she wants one big shower and the families to get along, but i think these 2 families will never get along because of the bad feelings. Its already too late. I will be glad when this wedding is over and I do not have to be with these people, except for the few times we will be at my dtr's house in the years ahead.