Craftyone, I am so sorry. Your "sit-down" did not go very well. I hope things can repair itself, but if your SIL is so spoiled, I am not sure he will change. How dare he ask how much money is expected from your side of the family. How old is he? Has your daughter known him for a long time? Sometimes wedding planning can bring out the worst in people due to all the stress. I hope it will pass and that he will apologize to you and your husband. Try to speak to your daughter alone, but be careful...be sure not to bad mouth your SIL in front of her. Simply tell her that your feelings are hurt and that you have done the best you and her dad could do financially. It will then be up to her to explain to your SIL the circumstances. Good Luck.