Wow, that's a tough one. I haven't been in your shoes, and I have wondered how I would react if that happened to me. I think I would say "Hey, you're outta here!", but then you think of the 30 years together, the kids, the dog, the money... - If I did choose to stay with him, it would take one heck of a committment from him for that to happen.

I'm sorry that it happened at such a tough time in your life too; are you better physically now?

Hopefully someone here can help you with the suggestions - best wishes!
Kathy