I have felt the same way about my rings - and have told my husband that I would put them back on when he asked me to marry him again. HE broke our vows - and I need him humbled enough to ask me back into his life.

I also understand the forgivenss v.s. forgetting thing. I am a VERY forgiving and gracious person, however, when trust has been broken there is an element that will never be the same again.

I went away this week fully trusting my husband, NOT worrying, and I got a phone call from my daughter at home - alerting me to a situation.

How could I EVER trust a man who continues to lie, manipulate, and make bad choices?

I have started going to a "co-dependancy" group - I would highly suggest that others who struggle with relationships check out a local group. I never realized that I was "co-dependant" but once things came to "light", I started to see how I was reacting to the insanity in my life.

D.