Ohhh Chickadee that is truly beautifully depicted.
I think my husbands behaviours were a cry for help, not to mention a nearly 50 year old man thing, although the red sports car would have been less hurtful to myself!! We had another reminder of the affair recently which coinicided with my Dads death. If things had happened differently then we may have actually seperated, but my husband was deeply supportive through Dads death. Recently, I was able to tell him that I was a lot stronger now, I was able to tell him that I had considered seperating (I would not have been strong enough to admit to this 2 years ago) and the outcome has been good. He is talking the talk and behaving like a truly committed husband. I have gone through the self talk, you know how can I stay with this man etc but it is all looking good lately. And I said in another thread that I believe this site has helped so thanks mates!!