Thats how my ex became too Number5, he didn't really want me but didn't want anyone else to want me either and hated that anyone else did. Your soon to be X is afraid of the support and understanding and learning you receive from woman here who have learned the hard way how to remain sane and beat the all male system. He fears the fact that many women are strong and that you may begin to feel your own strengths and realize what a pitiful loser/abuser he is and the funny thing is he's right!!! One day you'll laugh about all this, doesn't seem possible but its true. Maybe you can get a meeting at work and explain (briefly) why you may need to be late every now and then...