Dianne,
Is being a control freak part of the abusive personality? Being a nervous wreck type when they think they are losing control? Calling again, again and again and leaving nasty messages when they can't reach you on the phone? Thinking they have to micro-manage everything in your life to include who you are friends with and care about?

He knows I communicate with you all and I can't even repeat the names he calls you all as a collective group...


Are any of these traits of an abusive person?