Oh, big thoughts on this!!!!

Alcohol doesn't cause abuse. The abuser has the need to abuse and the alcohol only causes him or her to lose those inhibitions when drinking. In other words, the tendency is still there.

Some people get mean when they drink. My first husband did. But he was no walk on the beach when he was sober either.

We can say, oh the booze made him do it when in truth, it didn't. He made him do it.

Women who are abused are more afraid of change than the abuser. This is why they will forget what he's really like. They have to pretend or they might end up homeless and on the streets. That's scary and especially during the holidays or if you have children.