thank you Lynnie you are a sweetheart!! And you are correct, we are strong. and we are intelligent!! And often a hell of lot more intelligent than many of those giving orders etc.... (maybe that's how the some of the confusion begins, trying to figure out, what's going on, why are basic rules of kindness being so ignored ? What am i missing?) I think you know what i mean. (and i think now, if we leave too soon, we might have to come back..and start all over. Oh lord what if we came back as some burqa covered woman in the middle east?. No, we'll finish the job eh, and enjoy as much as we can while we try to do as best we can.....thanks again lynn