Thanks Lynnie, but there wasn't a place to go when i had wanted one - and i had 3 daughters, the motivation on my part was not generousity, but wanting there to be places, if they ever needed one. (i like your words though). And it was also an attempt to make amends. I couldn't go back and give the affection my oldest girls needed when so often we each walked on egg shells here. I couldn't take back words they got instead of my husband. The women who came here, and their kids, gave me as much or more than i was able to give them, though we smoked alot of cigerettes, and drank alot of coffee, after all others were in bed, deep bonds quickly developed.
(and after the first night, they'd be saying of course to 'the secret swedish receipe' which they knew helped people sleep. (my granny made it for my dad when he was a boy, and he made it for me). (those grandparents were born in 1867 and 1873)