NewLeaf, darn, I am so sorry tohear about your surgery. we need the clouds to move for you. It's time some sunshine got through.

What is one thing that would make you happy? Even if it's just for one hour. decide what it is and somehow figure out a way to revel in that hour and know you are loved by all your boomer women friends.

Also know that women have been in similar situations and pulled through with flying colors.

Stay on your path to gaining independence from him, love that granddaughter, and keep making new friends who are healthy. We're here for you.