Number5 you also stated you could move out of state where you had a job waiting for you. Merediths advice is sound and really the only option you have to save your sanity and your health. Living alone does not mean lonliness. You can make friends at work or even join a support group wherever you move to. Does your daughters probation and/or legal issues mean possibly jail time? If this is a possiblilty you may need to take on the care of your grand daughter anyway. Perhaps turning her in would be the best way to give her time to heal. This is such a delema and I feel for the confusion that must be racing through your mind....