hi Peggy... my husband and i have separated three times, we are back together, but we are friends living together now. Our problems have had long reaching effects on my decisions and my daughters' decisions. They and i finally came to the realization that we do not need a boss or a bully directing our personal lifes, we may want good friends, but we are able to survive quite well without 'a man' . That was the beginning of liberation for all of us. And the beginning of friendships...., maybe Peggy, this is a bit similiar to what you are now going through ...

i might add it also gave him the opportunity to
realize that hurts he had known as a child, were absolutely wrong, but he had to come to terms with those hurts, we had found out what they were, we realized then the reasons for his inner angers, but cycles of hurt, no matter what type had to stop.....

[ November 29, 2005, 03:17 PM: Message edited by: norma ]