The first paragraph of the power & control list shows "using intimidation" as an inidcator of abuse. As in illustration of this, for those that read the book, I am convinced that Todd disposed of my bike that night to arrange to give me a ride home, which correlates to destroying property. He also let the revolver be seen when in fact he could have concealed it, which correlates to displaying weapons. And I could feel him watching me, in the restaurant when I was working and when he dropped me off after giving me a ride home. These were subtle messages of letting me know who was in charge. Couple that with the patriarchal culture in which I was raised and it is easy to realize how I could have been vulnerable to abuse.