Doesn't sound "typical" or "normal" to me that's for sure...you spent a great deal of time talking with this person before she was supposedly going to pitch your book at the committee and NOW she's calling you a "hard sell" ?? Unless the subject of your prior publishing history never came up in discussion before, this just sounds weird to me!

Hang in there....there are other fish in the sea. Sometimes you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince.