All of you who have sustained long marriages - I bow to you. It takes a lot of work. I almost made it to my twentieth anniversary then he decided to do an about face and try to find that fountain of youth he thought he was missing. Ah well. Such is life. But, you know, there was a reason it didn't last. Sometimes, a couple reaches the end of the road and although there is a lot of heartache involved, it's what must be and people need to understand that and move on. That's the trouble a lot of people have - moving on from what was comfortable into something that is unknown. But it's all part of your individual life and you have to deal with it. My kudos to those who have sustained long marriages! It is to you I have most utmost admiration. ;o)