It sounds like he is incorrect about the idea of no therapist agreeing with you. Might it help if you went to counseling on your own. That would maybe be a time just for you - a way in which to build up your confidence in yourself and possibly give you some methods for dealing / coping with the relationship problems where you can feel stronger about being in the relationship. just a thought..

Good luck, I feel bad that it sounds like the financial situation has you in a relationship which might not be where you want to be. I'll pray that you and he can work it all out.

Donna