I kind of know what you're going through Bonnie. My 2nd x had 2 children, 11 & 14 and I moved into their house. They were very resentful that I used my things, rather than theirs. They didn't want me to change anything in the home and always felt like a visitor. I couldn't even move a picture. It was such a relief to get out.

Are there any other relationship problems in your situation? Your husband needs to understand that the children will benefit more if he puts you first, then you will be filled up and therefore better able to love his children. 2 is better than 1. Any hope for couple counseling?

Daisygirl