I have a deep feeling in my heart that this will all work out for you Di and that it is happening even now, slow but sure. Just remain on your course of kindness and understanding and all will be fine in time....Learn to love and accept the new baby when it arrives as you might have loved your own. The child is guiltless in all this and will love you unconditionally as Grandma, which is not a bad thing to be, right all you Grandma's out there?