I think it's the rare step-family that makes it...everyone has to be willing to make it work. Kids these days (no offence to those of you who have great kids), but my husband calls the kids today the "me generation". It's all about them and what they want and to heck with anyone else. I feel sorry for all of you but there's a reason the divorce rate is so high among step-families...it seldom works. At least if they're grown and out of the house you can refrain from having them over at your house if they're trouble...that's my case...unless they respect me they don't come over...they choose not to so they stay away...it doesn't bother me a bit. At least where they are concerned my life has peace and quiet to it. How much longer before they all move out on their own? Will your marriage last that long? Any counseling?