THank you all so very very much. I've learned over the years to just be open and upfront about my feelings and this morning i just shared how i felt at the breakfast table and i think my husband felt my pain and suggested i remain calm for our baby's sake. he spoke with his ex and of course she denied everything and tried changing the subject to bring up other things but i'm really proud of the way he dealt with her.

thanks again and i didn't quite understand if i was supposed to wait to post my question but if that is the way you all like to do it around here, I will work with that.
thanks again