Hi, and thank you all for the thoughtful insights.

I actually HAVE worked very hard to move beyond this experience and have succeeded. I was just surprised at hearing from him with such an intense message on my answering machine. I appreciate the honest and intelligent advice here, with which I agree!

MustangGal, sev. months ago, I bought the book DON'T CALL THAT MAN and found it very helpful. You're right, it's a good book~! I will look for the other one you've suggested.

I actually have succeeded in returning to "solo bliss" (as Chatty has described), and this contact was just a momentary glitch. I just needed opinions, and I thank you all!!
Ari