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Originally posted by ariadne54:

Yeah, I feel emotionally battered at this time, but at the same time, feeling I brought it on myself! So reckless.
ARI
I understand the emotionally battered part. I'm still recovering from that myself. But you didn't "bring it on" yourself. You engaged in a realtionship in good faith - that it would be positive for both of you. You didn't renege - he did. If he 'wasn't that into you' he really did have an obligation to tell you so right from jump street - not to watch you go deeper and deeper and make you dance like a puppet on a string. It sounds like that's his game. I've found that people who are really experts in psychology are the best string pullers and have the worst relationships. Not always...just that I've seen some real disfunctional people with Psych PhD's. And you have to wonder about the motivation behind their actions. You didn't ask the Universe, 'Hey, send me a real psycho winner this time to see if I'm up to it.' No one (well, almost no one) asks for a train wreck.