Hello again and thank you all for your valuable insights and opinions. It has been confusing to me to see the situation for what it is.....sometimes telling myself it's not as bad as I'm thinking, but in typing my story down, and getting your feedback, it seems it is truly bad!!!! From the time of our second date, in which we became sexual (I was swept off my feet!!), I have felt growing anxiety, expressed that timidly to him, getting no comfort from him, and feeling responsible for driving him away!!!! So....rather than beat myself up about this...I am trying to remember what the "INTO YOU" book said: "If he's choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight (in my case not fight, but anxiety), then he doesn't respect your feelings and needs."

I am also going to print and read and re-read all of your helpful comments.
ARI