Dear Mixed, One of my all time heroines is Toni Morrison and she writes;

Wanna fly, you got to give up the shit that weighs you down.

Then goes on to say;

Our old shit is so precious to us. We tenderly harbor our old resentments and periodically throw them pieces of fresh meat to keep them alive. We nurture our anger. We don't do anything to work it through or let it go, we just hang on and nurture it. And we wonder why we feel so stuck and held back in our lives.
When we hold onto old shit, it weighs us down. It is as if our feet are stuck in fresh tar.
There comes a time that we can see that it doesn't really matter what someone has done to us, our holding on to it is hurting us not them, and if we want to heal, we had best take our old shit and fertilize the flowers...
By Toni Morrison - Author

I feel the only way to grow is to let go and don't you dare count yourself out of the wonders of life.. You have alot to offer and there is another chance waiting for you out there Mixed.