Sugaree,

I have to agree with the above women. I, too, have been there, done that, and it hurts like heck!

I believe you made an excellent point about the 'abuse' and how it affects your adult life. I was abused sexually in my 20's and it affected my other relationships with men and sometimes it still affects my relationship with my husband.

I believe that some of it 'is' mental because the relationship and abuse is so personal and, in my opinion, Freudian. What happens in our youth, does affect our adult years because our minds and bodies are still forming and growing.

Like the above ladies mentioned, dump him--for he will only continue to hurt and use you. You deserve better. You can conquer the obsessive thoughts with God's help. I can say this because God brought me through several 'awful' times with men.

Keep us posted as to how it goes and know that we care about you...