Maybe I should ask my son to consider a cash bar. All of your ideas make sense. I think I might end up doing the majority of the work as the bride's mother lives in another state, but then, so do it! She's a new widow and I know can't afford a big wedding. My son asked me if I'd come down a week or two ahead to help her but I don't want her mom to feel like I'm taking over. Touchy ground.