My parents sound like your in-laws. Will never put themselves out for anyone other than traveling missionaries, etc. They forget my kids birthdays and are basically selfish.

I believe the day will come when life will throw something at them like illness or death and then, they will either want or expect your husband to be there for them.

It's very sad what family members do to each other. I have no sense of a close knit family other than with my kids and husband.

I'm just sad that your little family is going through this pain.

I cut off communications with my parents for almost 12 years. When people asked me why I told them...for the same reason I don't drink Drain-o. It's poison to my system. It will destroy me.