To say your moms near 90 and her tests show that theres nothing wrong is a wonderment in itself. Like you say she is just old and isn't going to feel the same as she did years ago....God Bless her....

In another post I mentioned moving across country to be near my son and my soon to be born grandson. It was the right decision for me and both my son and daughter-in-law begged me to come home. I think you have a double problem here, 1st. whether to leave your mon and other family and move away or 2nd. whether to move and maybe take your mother along but then you have the sibblings to deal with. I hope the answer comes to you and everything works out. I see no snowbirds here to worry about, you have a real dilema.