Maggie, wow...the bride had to tell her. That's one for the books. My inlaws aren't quite like that but they do get their little digs in throughout the course of the evening..you know little things like "oh, you wouldn't remember when that happened because that was the year you didn't come". gotta just love family get to gethers. They always leave you with a warm fuzzy feeling. My husband still hasn't clued in that I'm not having a "hot flash" I'm just hot!