I don't know why people are so insensitive when it comes to doing things like that, but they are and will, I fear, continue to be. I truly don't remember if this sort of thing happened after Chuck lost his father.

I DO know that my mother insisted we be listed as "her beloved children Jacquleine and Charles" and the same for my brother and his wife. We were all unbelievably touched. The funeral director said he's never had anyone do that before. I thought it was beautiful.