Micki, hindsight is always 20/20. I have read where people have said the same thing as Tim about getting a life threatening disease. Really brings what matters to the forefront.

There are people who drop dead of heart attacks and never get to that point. Don't you think?

How wise of you to be able to sort all that out about his past hurts and desire to change. I bet those 4 years were awesome. Many mixed blessings, I'm sure.