Another thought, forget the cleaning for Jesus stuff, sandpiper is right on w/ that one...
Someone once told me...point the finger and you will see the thumb is pointing right back to you.
Di, the only attitude adjustment you need is...
remember what Sandpiper said. You are not his mother. Leaving his "stuff" behind is not showing you any respect whatsover. You can try
(I know it is very hard) doing the same, trust me, he'll notice.