Dianne, I love the idea of sending books instead of giving your advice. Does she mind getting the books? DO you mention them ahead of time?

Chatty, I have two sons. I'm already praying they'll marry loving gals.

Copy, you are wise. It sounds like you've given up control. I think some parents try too hard to make a difference once the kids leave home.

My parents set a good example in this depratment. Mom is sadly gone. Dad continues to mind his business, but somehow gently gives an idea of his feelings concerning sticky situations. I hope he's around longer becasue I still need to learn how he does it!