There is a great old saying that goes something like, "To forget history's lesson is to repeat them". So forgetting a problem, history, pain, whatever, is not really possible and probably not too wise. In dealing with our childhoods, our marriages, our relationships, to forget is to repeat. To remember, but with love and forgiveness, opens the door to the possibility of positive change and repair. In trying to rebuild my life after the past year of pain, I am determined to remember all that led up to the crisis, to evaluate with honesty and candor, the strengths and weaknesses of my family, and to resolve to work toward correcting the problems and building something better. But to pretend that one can ever forget some of the pains of the past is naive. It takes more work to forgive and to move on than to stay angry...often that is why people stay angry.