Eagle, great idea. Plus it might be a good idea for kate's son to see the shelter.

Another thought might be to have dinner at a restaurant and the expense could be part of your parent's Christmas gift. Do you think they would go for that?

Kate, I congratulate you for setting boundaries. You are one strong woman. Give yourself a huge hug honey.

I have a few friends who have dealt, or are dealing with addicted adult children and I don't know how they do it. All I can do is listen and pray for everyone involved. Tough love is the only way to go, but it is much easier said than done.

I pray your son admits his addiction and gets the help he needs. Do you have methadone clinics where you live. Have you ever considered that?