yup, and through that grief, they laugh about how her (shelby's mother) hair does look like a football helmet, if i remember the scene correctly. awesome movie. my favorite line is "if you don't have anything nice to say about anybody...well.. you just come sit next to me" i think that happens at the christmas party. i love that line. i get such a kick out of that. it reminds me of my very best girlfriend and me.