Sugar, it sounds like your son wants so badly to have a *good* father/son relationship that he is *wishing* it into existence. A good therapist could probably talk him through this. I don't think you can because you are too close to the picture. As his mom, you can't really divorce how you feel about the situation from the conversations. Also, knowing what the reality is, you can't reinforce his fantasy, because you know it's not true. But maybe another person could figure out why his *fantasy* picture of his dad is so important to him. Fantasies fill a void in a person's life. This sounds like a mighty big hole. But a word of caution, the more time a person spends defending their fantasy, the more *real* it becomes in their mind. The defending reinforces the false picture. Just my two cents.