Like Dotsie, I volunteered for everything when my kids were in school. After a while, I said, "Enough already." By the time they left for college, I was delighted to give all that up. It was someone else's turn.

The only thing I kept on doing was helping run an academic competition at the state level, organizing all the volunteers to run the meets. That ended when I got cancer. They had to find someone to take over my job, and I was delighted to let him keep it.

Since then, I've worked in various charitable organizations. I backed away from all of those when my I had to take care of my sick husband last year. Recently I started volunteering at my local hospital one day a week, and I love it.