I don't think ANYONE would call me elegant. I'm with you Garrie-cleaning is a drag on the mind and soul.

I have never "stayed at home" but I went through a cleaning phase that lasted about two years. I don't know what that was all about and you know what? I like my house even more now! It's not clean but it feels good. And when people visit for an hour or days they say it feels good to be here. Relaxing. That is what matters. If my shower liner has funk on it and they don't like it or think less of me for it than OK. That is a problem they can own. Iam going to decorate this house for the holidays OVER THE DIRT.

We are sanitary and attempt tidy at least once per week. That is it.

Maybe we should focus on the fact that we are all homemakers because we make a loving home or a relaxing home or a fun home. A homemaker does not have to be a clean freak or a "stay at home Mom".

Although I would like to have a discussion about what if anything I have missed by not being a stay at home Mom. Any takers? i currently have a five year old in pre-school.