I know I've mentioned this in posts before, but my doctor diagnosed me with "Mother's disease". He said that was the cause of my stomach troubles and my anxiety disorder. Trust me, better to learn to say no sooner rather than later. Better to teach your children some self reliance earlier because once they get accostomed to you being their maid, it never changes. Learn from the mistakes of this overwhelmed mom....start as soon as possible....saying no, doing only the volunteer things you enjoy, see friends, have dates with your spouse.....be good to yourself and you'll be better all around.