On the mark, Norma! That's exactly what caused my severe depression and that of many others. I had just been diagnosed with cancer, my father died and I kept pretending I was coping with everything. I've since learned that it's not my job to either solve everyone problems or to cope perfectly with all situations. What a relief it was to learn to say, "I can't handle this right now." I now do the best I can and like myself a lot better.